The problem.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you have to open up a part of yourself. You can never help out anyone unless you put your all into it. To make someone feel better, there has to be a connection... in order to form a connection, both parties have to open up to each other. While making other people feel better is alturistic, feeling pretentious is not uncommon.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you sacrifice a part of yourself and that makes it seem worth it. You must take the effort to reach out a hand... and not just a regular hand, a hand long enough and strong enough to reach that person. Only half-assing it won't do.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you have to bear out your soul. You must show them that you understand, and for them to believe it, you must have proof. It is only empathy that enables humans to form a bond of understanding. Only with this bond have you truely reached this person.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you have to forget about yourself for a moment and the things that may hurt you and instead forget about your fears. You have to trust in your friend and they have to trust in you. You must make sure that the bond isn't broken.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that more than 90% of the case, the bond is always broken afterwards. At least for me... that's why I don't go out of my way for friends anymore... except on special cases, where the person deserves it as a person, not as just a friend.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that they might never do the same for you... and you expect them to, but how could they possibly make you feel better when they don't know anything about you? A bond of empathy cannot be created if neither parties share.
And I, I have the hardest time not sharing, but I always regret it when I do... what is the point of sharing, when what I have to say means nothing to them... and the problem with sharing is that people do not know to take it to their advantage. Only when you can make a friend feel better is when sharing is a necessaity, but by then it's too late. So, I don't like to share... unless I have to.
The problem with human beings is that we do not care; we only wish to empathize, so that we may mitigate our pain. I can relate, but I will never be that. I will be the other half and both, never taking for granted either way.
The joy of making a friend feel better is that feeling you get when you're willing to sacrifice your deep dark past for someone you truely care about. And thought you have so many bad friends, and you hate the though of a bad ending between each other, you will try anyway. Because even through all the problems, one joy can be enough to overcome the rest.
And you will know that it is worth it, as will I.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you sacrifice a part of yourself and that makes it seem worth it. You must take the effort to reach out a hand... and not just a regular hand, a hand long enough and strong enough to reach that person. Only half-assing it won't do.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you have to bear out your soul. You must show them that you understand, and for them to believe it, you must have proof. It is only empathy that enables humans to form a bond of understanding. Only with this bond have you truely reached this person.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that you have to forget about yourself for a moment and the things that may hurt you and instead forget about your fears. You have to trust in your friend and they have to trust in you. You must make sure that the bond isn't broken.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that more than 90% of the case, the bond is always broken afterwards. At least for me... that's why I don't go out of my way for friends anymore... except on special cases, where the person deserves it as a person, not as just a friend.
The problem with making a friend feel better is that they might never do the same for you... and you expect them to, but how could they possibly make you feel better when they don't know anything about you? A bond of empathy cannot be created if neither parties share.
And I, I have the hardest time not sharing, but I always regret it when I do... what is the point of sharing, when what I have to say means nothing to them... and the problem with sharing is that people do not know to take it to their advantage. Only when you can make a friend feel better is when sharing is a necessaity, but by then it's too late. So, I don't like to share... unless I have to.
The problem with human beings is that we do not care; we only wish to empathize, so that we may mitigate our pain. I can relate, but I will never be that. I will be the other half and both, never taking for granted either way.
The joy of making a friend feel better is that feeling you get when you're willing to sacrifice your deep dark past for someone you truely care about. And thought you have so many bad friends, and you hate the though of a bad ending between each other, you will try anyway. Because even through all the problems, one joy can be enough to overcome the rest.
And you will know that it is worth it, as will I.
posted by Rukia @ 1:45 AM
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